With over 8 million people living in London, it is hard to think that one can feel lonely in this city but it happens. Maybe the time-difference makes it impossible to be in the (virtual) company of friends and family, or maybe you are having trouble making friends, I suggest reading below if you can relate.
We have all felt loneliness at one point or another in our lives but somehow moving to a totally different city, whether its 100 miles or just one from your hometown, you have moved away from all that you know, from your comfort zone. I am here to reassure you that feeling lonely is normal and sometimes even therapeutic.
When I first moved to Uni, I was so used to having meals with my family that it never dawned on me that I would need to ask people to have meals with me so for the first week or so at school, I ended up eating by myself. I am not considered a shy person but in a transition as important as (1.) going to university and (2.) moving far away from home, I was. I also let my pride get the best of me; I felt vulnerable and feared rejection, so instead of taking a chance I ended up pushing the noodles and starring at my plate.
Making friends had always come easy to me so I did not anticipate the IMPORTANCE of joining school groups like the Drama Society or Shades of Noir. Hence, it took me a while longer than others to make friends since for my first year I did not join any school groups. For more ideas on what to join, check here. If you want to kill two birds with one stone and make some cash while making friends, you can look for a temporary job here.
Lastly, don’t forget that feeling comfortable and making friends takes time. It took 15 or 18 years for you to build the relationship you have with your friends back home so be patient. Give your classmates a chance to surprise you; you are here not to only learn from your teachers but from your classmates. If the loneliness feels too overwhelming or if you just want someone to talk to, do check out Counselling.
- TIP 1: Don’t be afraid to tell others that you don’t know many or any people in the city and would like to be invited to things. Trust the power of empathy.
- TIP 2: Since you are already out of your comfort zone, push yourself even further and check out 3 student groups you would have never thought to try before.
- TIP 3: Awkward is a choice. Don’t worry about making the first impression memorable, any introduction is better that none at all.
By Maria Luisa, MA Applied Imagination, CSM
This article was originally published on Carousel.