Coming from a Bangladeshi background, I am often the victim of people's stereotypical views and barbaric attitudes towards Bangladeshis and their cultural practices. For example, in regards to marriage and finding myself a suitable partner, people always make jokes about arranged marriages and getting married to your cousin.
Now let me stress to you that not all Bangladeshi's do this, and it certainly isn't Bangladeshis that have arranged marriges and getting hitched up with their cousin on their agendas! People from Afro Carribean, European and other Asian countries take part in all this too.
Anyways, jokes aside, I do think I may get an arranged marriage as my parents are very strict and very traditonal with their mindset and ways. However, if I do find someone worthy to take home (which is often not the case lol), then I am allowed to sort out my own affairs and choose the person whom I am to spend the rest of my life with.
The thing is, I don't know where you are meant to find your soulmate, your life partner, the reason for your heart skipping a beat, but many people have told me the answer is university. I started university with the right intentions of obviously doing well and working towards getting a 1st class degree, but I also yearned for some eye candy and to invest in my future if you know what I mean.
Let me tell you this though, as soon as I stepped into my class, I was very dissapointed to say the least. Everyone in my class was a female (I mean I did choose Media and Cultural Studies, which is a tad bit feminine), there was only two boys.
Outside of my class, the guys at uni are very anti-social (I promise you this isn't a dark picture that I'm trying to create, I'm just telling you how it is). Everyone just keeps themselves to themselves. To be honest, over hearing conversations (yes I do eavesdrops occasionally- people always do it to me!), it seems like people have relationships outside of uni.
My dream of finding my future husband in uni has been lost. I've lost hope.